Hi kecha. I’m kedra. I am getting same surgery u had in March 2022. When did ur pain ease up and did u get a drain?

Hello – I have had terrible back issues since having our second child (it will literally spasm if I lift anything the wrong way), and feel defeated about it ever getting better since I have DR and an incredibly weak core. Did having the surgery help with your ability to strengthen your core? I think it would be totally worth it if it would help my back. Thank you for sharing!

Hi Elizabeth, I’m so sorry to hear about your DR and hernia. I can completely relate to the pain and also to the discomfort of wearing wraps, etc. As to your questions, I guess it depends on each person and each surgeon. My surgeon told me I wouldn’t be able to have any more children after the surgery due to the mesh and my stomach muscles adhering to it. We already had four children at that point and we were ready to be done having children. I am not sure if that’s the case for each person, but having a personal consult with a surgeon would be something to consider. Again, I really understand the pain and the inconvenience of it all; before my surgery, I could barely hold myself up and barely get anything done. The surgery helped me so much, but I was in so much pain while going through the pregnancies and deliveries of my children prior to that. Blessings to you as you consider what’s best for you and for your family. <3<3<3

I was diagnosed with a severe Diastisis Recti and Umbilical Hernia just after my first child who is now 1 year old. I wasn’t experiencing any pain but could see and feel my intestines moving freely in what still looks like a 5-month pregnant belly. I recently started experiencing some pain and discomfort around my midsection and been considering going in for the surgery to repair the DR and Hernia but I’m so worried about the effect it will have on me having a second child in some years or would I even be able to have a second child after the surgery? Also means I wouldn’t be able to work for quite a while. How do I cope now with the pain if I don’t undergo the surgery? I tried a belly wrap but I find anything not natural to my skin very discomforting. I’d still see my doc for general advice but I just would really love to get advice from anyone who actually has experienced this. Please, help!

Thank you.

I am glad they helped you, Carol. Best wishes with your DR and hernias; I know it’s no fun. <3 Danielle

Thank you for your explanations and descriptions.

In this update they were just from using the wraps. If you want to see the before and after from the surgery (I also did not get a tummy tuck), read my Diastasis Recti Surgery Series. Keep in mind the infection was a rare anomaly, most do NOT turn out that way! <3

Hi Lena, at the time my youngest was 7 months. If I remember correctly, I think it was several months before I could hold her unassisted. I think I mention it somewhere in this series if you want to go back and look. I cannot say when the best time would be, as I truly think it’s different for each mother and family. Just be prepared to be out of commission for a couple months. It might be easier when they’re littler, or it might be easier when they’re more mobile and less dependent on you. In retrospect I’m glad I had the surgery because my stomach works now and I can stand, dance, and do most of the things I’d like to do. (Anything stomach-dependent is difficult such as situps or pullups.) I can’t bear the thought of going through it again as it was the hardest thing I had ever done in my life, but as you said, that really is in regard to the infection, not the surgery itself. I am glad it’s over with. <3